Tuesday, July 12, 2011
CAN THIS RELATIONSHIP WORK?
me and my boyfriend have been talking for a year but we really starting dating four months ago..he asked me to move in with him and we started having problems where i would complain because he would always put his friends before me instead of it being equal...he always tells me that his friends were there first..i understand that but it still should be equal when it comes to spending time with us..he started working and his first pay check he took his friends to a club and it kind of made me mad because we never really did anything together..i mean since he have been working he haven't seen his friends like normal but maybe im being selfish but still he spent time with me and then went out..that started our problems..then we got into it because i get mad when he hangs with his friend which this certain friend is a man whore..to be honest i trust my boyfriend but hes so easily influenced that i believe he would bend over backwards to please his friend.and he gets mad and he comes in saying that he think its a sin that we are shacking up..for one my boyfriend parents are Christians his father is a pastor so hes like really religious about certain things but he sins like hell..so i quickly told him that its no where in the bible that says shacking up is a sin it says your not suppose to have sex without marriage. and he was like it don't matter its just not right..this is something his parents have been talking to us about for a while but i feel like we are almost grown we can make our own decisions. but anyway he told me that he feels like anything bad thats happening is happening because we are shacking up..so i asked him if he was willing to stop all sinful things he said yes.so i was like are you willing to stop sinning about the sinful stuff you sing about and he says no thats his dream ..so i got mad because basically hes telling me singing about sex and stuff is okay but its not okay for us to stay together...no sin is bigger then the next.. but we agreed that we would stay together but not have sex..in which i was totally with but a week later we had sex because he wanted to..but then all of a sudden he started acting funny he didnt want to kiss or hug or nothing.and i asked him one day why?and he told me that hes not ready for us to be staying together...and i agreed but we also agreed that we would stay together..so i went home and he stays 30 minutes away.we are far but its not easy for us to see each other..i am going to visit him this weekend but idk when we will see each other after that.being that he works 6 days a week.i tell him that i don't think it will work but he insist that it will i want to believe him but i really need advice...do anyone know how we can make this work...but for some reason i feel like he really want this because either his parents beliefs or because he was tired of me complaining about no spend time with me..and he wants to do what he wants to do..not saying i can tell him what to do because hes grown..but alot of my friends tell me to just let him go but honesty me and him both think its going to work so what do i do.then my best friend told me that at the end of the day its me and his decision ..true but i dont if it dont work i dont want to hear the i told you so's
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